Author: SeekGrowLove

In Need of a Home Inspector

Old Testament: Jeremiah 43, 44, 45
Poetry: Proverbs 25
New Testament: Intro to Jude – see below


“REXBURG, Idaho – The five-bedroom house sits on pastoral acreage in the rural U.S. countryside. At a price less than $180,000, it seemed a steal.


But a bargain it wasn’t. Ben and Amber Sessions soon realized the dream home they’d purchased in Idaho for their growing family in 2009 was infested with hundreds upon hundreds of garter snakes.


The ground surrounding the home appeared to move at times, it was so thick with snakes. Throngs of snakes crawled beneath the home’s siding. At night, the young couple said they would lie awake and listen to slithering inside the walls.


“It was like living in one of those horror movies,” said Ben Sessions, 31.”


I wonder if this nightmare could have been avoided with a house inspection before this young couple purchased this home. I imagine in the excitement of buying a home for a great price and naively trusting their realtor that the stories about snakes in the area were a myth, a home inspector probably didn’t seem necessary.


In Jeremiah 43-45, God is the home inspector. Through Jeremiah, God warns the Judeans not to go to Egypt. Though this warning was not due to snakes, but worse, false gods. Depending on what Wikipedia article you read, the Egyptians of the time had between 1500 to 2000 false gods. While the gods did not actually exist, the people who worshiped them certainly did and were the “influencers” of their time. God knew that if the Judeans went to Egypt, they would quickly fall in step with the practices of the Egyptian culture. In fact, many of the women were already worshiping the “Queen of Heaven,” the goddess of sex and war. God does not accept practicing sexual immorality (which He reminds us again through Jude, which just HAPPENS to be our New Testament reading for the day. Coincidence? I think not!). Even more so, God is a jealous
God and does not accept worshiping other gods. Besides all that, we were already told that God told the people NO. And that should have been that.


While it’s highly unlikely you will find yourself in a house overrun with snakes or a culture overrun with false gods, are there things in your life you are heading into without the benefit of a “home inspector?” Is it safe and wise to go where you are heading? Be wise and design your plans with the help of the Lord and a Christ-following mentor. I am not just writing to just the teens here. All of us, of any age, need the wisdom only God can provide, often through a mentor.


The young people in the snake story and the Judeans in Jeremiah had their own plans and didn’t let things like lack of a home inspection or God’s blessing get in the way of their plans. Sadly, the young couple had to go into bankruptcy to get out of the house and the people who went to Egypt were destroyed. Do not follow in their paths.

-Maria Knowlton

Reflection Questions

  1. Can you think of a time when you chose to do it your way instead of God’s way? What was the result? What might have happened instead if you would have done it God’s way?
  2. If you ask God to inspect your home/life, what might He point out as red flags to be cautious of or totally remove for your safety and the safety of others? What reinforcements would He recommend you add in order to create a stronger home?
  3. In the end, whose word will stand – God’s or yours? How do you know? Knowing that, how should you life today?

Jude Introduction

The book of Jude was written by Jude, the brother of James and believed to also be the half-brother of Jesus (Matthew 13:55 and 1 Corinthians 9:5).

The book of Jude is very similar to 2 Peter 2, urgently warning against false teachers who have slipped in among the believers.  It warns against falling away from the faith, giving as examples the Israelites who were delivered from Egypt but were later destroyed, and angels who did not keep their positions of authority but abandoned their own home.  Jude wanted to not only make people aware of false teachers, but also to encourage believers to fight for the truth.

I’ll close with Jude 1:22, “Be merciful to those who doubt, snatch others from the fire and save them; to others show mercy, mixed with fear – hating even the clothing stained by corrupted flesh.”

-Steve Mattison

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A Piece of Good Advice

*Old Testament: Jeremiah 41-42

Poetry: Proverbs 24

New Testament: 3 John

I’ve always enjoyed this totally fabricated interchange between two people along the coast:

Americans: Please divert your course 15 degrees to the North to avoid a collision.

Canadians: Recommend you divert YOUR course 15 degrees to the South to avoid a collision.

Americans: This is the Captain of a US Navy ship. I say again, divert YOUR course.

Canadians: No. I say again, you divert YOUR course.

Americans: This is the aircraft carrier USS Lincoln, the second largest ship in the United States’ Atlantic fleet. We are accompanied by three destroyers, three cruisers and numerous support vessels. I demand that YOU change your course 15 degrees north, that’s one five degrees north, or countermeasures will be undertaken to ensure the safety of this ship.

Canadians: This is a lighthouse. Your call.

It’s a humorous example of disregarding the advice of others due to one’s own pride. I believe that is what is going on in today’s reading of Jeremiah 42. The people of Judah plead with Jeremiah to go to the Lord for them and tell them to either remain in Judah or go on to Egypt. Jeremiah comes back after 10 days and tells them the Lord said to stay put. The people then tell Jeremiah he is full of baloney. Jeremiah tells them they will be killed and they say See Ya! Gee… I wonder what will happen? I really feel for Jeremiah here as once again, someone begs for his advice and then was just like, nah, what do you know? Even after PROMISING they will do what he says! No wonder he is referred to as the Weeping Prophet.

Have you ever disregarded the advice of others? Was it unsolicited as in the lighthouse example? Was it solicited, like the people of Judah, and you ignored it anyway? Why did you disregard it? What were the results?

I’ve spoken of eternal significance in my previous writing. It’s a phrase my wise uncle uses to determine if something is worth getting worked up about. Does it have eternal significance? I suppose some advice doesn’t have eternal significance. I didn’t sand the cabinet before I painted it as advised by the paint can. Now it looks pretty cruddy. But some advice has great eternal significance. I have taken the advice of my parents, Sunday School teachers, pastors, and friends and put the Lord first in my life. I could write for some time about the blessings I have received because of acting on that advice.

All this to say, take good advice to heart and do not let pride get in the way. Like the sailors on that ship, it could save your life.

-Maria Knowlton

Reflection Questions

  1. Have you ever disregarded the advice of others? Was it unsolicited as in the lighthouse example? Was it solicited, like the people of Judah, and you ignored it anyway? Why did you disregard it? What were the results?
  2. How do you decide what advice to follow? Does your pride ever play a role in making that decision? How do you decide what is good advice and what is bad advice?
  3. What piece of advice or instruction have you heard or read lately that has eternal significance? Will you follow this advice? Why? How?
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It’s Your Choice

Old Testament: Jeremiah 39-40
Poetry: Proverbs 23
New Testament: 2 John



Once upon a time, a certain daughter and niece of mine chose to go play in the street. When my son, husband, and I saw them heading towards the road we tore across the yard and pulled them off the road as quickly as we could. I rarely ever spanked my kiddos, but in that moment, I did swat both of their bottoms. I wanted them to experience a little pain so that they would not do it again and possibly experience great pain and/or death.


In today’s reading, the writer of Proverbs 23:13 points out that if we discipline our children we may possibly save them from death. In today’s Old Testament passage, Jeremiah as the de facto parent, tries to discipline and instruct King Zedekiah and the people of Judah, to save them from death. Unfortunately, in the fairly “rated R for violence” chapter 39, the king disregards wisdom and instruction (as spelled out in Proverbs 23). It is utterly sad and gruesome to read the fate of this family and the end of lineage of Josiah. If only King Zedekiah
had known the consequences of his choices. Oh wait a minute! He did! Jeremiah told him exactly what would happen if he did not listen to the Lord!


Similarly, in 2 John, John tells the anonymous church the consequences if they listen to those teaching false ideas and doctrines. It is a short letter, and we don’t get all the details as the conversation was later carried on in person. But it is long enough to know this was a problem in this church.


Many of the consequences of the choices we make are not clear.
Become a teacher or an accountant = ???? Unknown consequences
Date Mark or Luke = ????? Unknown consequences
Take the job at the grocery store or McDonalds = ???? Unknown consequences
But in all these instances above, the choices and consequences are clear,
Run into the street = get hit by a car (or at least get a spanking)
Disregard a prophet = get your eyes gouged out and be killed
Listen to false teachers = be pulled away from God


You are going to have many choices in life where the consequences are not clear. But you will also have choices that are clear. Choose obedience. Choose faith. Choose life.


And stay out of the street!


Deuteronomy 30:19-20: This day I call the heavens and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live and that you may love the Lord your God, listen to his voice, and hold fast to Him.

-Maria Knowlton

Reflection Questions

  1. When have you made a bad choice even though you knew ahead of time what the consequences would be?
  2. How can discipline save from death? As a parent, child, teacher, youth leader how can this be applied to your situation?
  3. In what ways have you made choices leading to life and blessings, away from death and curses? How well are you listening to His voice and holding fast to Him?
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When They are Not Listening

Old Testament: Jeremiah 37 & 38

Poetry : Proverbs 22

New Testament: 1 John 5

I did everything right. I read to my kids every night, we went to story time at the public library, I modeled reading (especially when I went back to college). But somehow, I ended up with an adult and teen who abhor “free time” reading.


In reading the story of King Josiah (2 Kings 22-23), it was noted he did what was right according to the law and according to the love in his heart, soul, and might for the Lord. Yet, not one of his sons who succeeded him as king chose to follow the Lord. I can’t help but wonder what went wrong. Surely they had seen the wickedness of their ancestors and the time of peace that was enjoyed during their father’s rule. But we are not told why they made the choices they did, we
are only told the results.


In Jeremiah 37-38, we find that King Zedekiah ( the third of King Josiah’s son to rule, after one grandson) has gotten himself in a pickle and after years of ignoring God, he thinks maybe he better get that holy guy, Jeremiah, to pray for him and the people of Judah. (So, as in Proverbs 22:5, he clearly had been taught about the Lord and the need for a mediator. Pretty handy that verse is part of our reading today! )


Then Jeremiah tells the king and everyone within earshot that the Lord said they better surrender to the Babylonians so that they will live and serve out the upcoming punishment the Lord has rendered for their constant disobedience. Of course, no one likes this, so some of the king’s officials have him arrested on trumped up charges and put him in a makeshift prison. King Zedekiah lets him out for awhile, but it isn’t long before Jeremiah is arrested again and this time thrown in a muddy cistern. YUCK!!!! The king lets him out, again, and again asks if the Lord has sent him a message. The nerve! I can so relate when Jeremiah tells him, why do you ask for advice when you aren’t going to listen to me anyway?


I won’t give away what comes next, except to say, it isn’t good. But that’s no spoiler as we’ve already figured out that life isn’t very smooth when one chooses to ignore the Lord’s leading. I’m not thrilled my kids don’t like to read. My “training in them in the way they should go” did not stick in that area. But that is not really of any eternal significance. It is my prayer, however, that
they live lives of faith and obedience to God’s commandments as written in 1st John 5. Because THAT does have eternal significance.

-Maria Knowlton

Reflection Questions

  1. How can we seek to pass along to the next generation a love for the Lord and a desire to follow Him?
  2. What do we learn from Jeremiah about remaining faithful in a faithless society?
  3. In reading 1 John 5 what do you want to live out and pass along to the next generation? What will that look like today?
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The Implications of Living in God’s Love pt. 3 

Old Testament: Jeremiah 35 & 36

Poetry: Proverbs 21

New Testament: 1 John 4

“There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.” 1 John 4:18 

Implication #3: we don’t have to live in fear 

What is fear? 

Fear is often ugly, manifesting itself in ways that harm our sense of peace. Anxiety, worry, and terror are all results of fear hampering our mental health. What is not mentioned often (or, maybe I just don’t hear it) is that our spiritual health plays an essential role in fear’s impact on our lives. I think fear is generally caused by not knowing (with certainty) what is going to happen, what has happened, or what is happening. We worry after an autopsy is performed because we don’t know if the doctor will come back with “cancer” or “not cancer”. We stress when we cannot get in contact with our spouse because of what may or may not have happened to them while they were running errands. And we are terrorized by the creaking we hear in the ceiling above because we’re unsure of what it could be. In all these things, there is fear in not knowing.  

Love and fear 

Perhaps thinking about fear in this way will help unlock John’s meaning behind the phrase “perfect (or, complete) love casts out fear”. The beloved disciple tells us that fear is related to punishment and, particularly, within the context of this section of the letter, punishment on the day of judgment. So, the fear is not knowing “will I be punished, or will I be rewarded?”. Contemplating the difference between everlasting life versus everlasting death seems like a perfectly reasonable motive for fear. John, I think, recognizes this, which is why he wanted to assure his readers that there is no need to fear for the ones who are children of God, which is to say, the ones who love one another. Those who love one another are the ones who have understood and embraced the love of God. Only because God first loved us can we love Him and each other in the way commanded by Jesus. It is because of this love that God showed us that we can know there is no punishment for those who know Him—that is, those who have embraced Him, His son, and have His spirit working through them).  

Doesn’t stop at fear of punishment 

But not being afraid of judgment day is only part of the story. We can live life without fear and its many manifestations. As Paul says in one of his letters, there can be a peace beyond comprehension. It seems easy to have peace when everything is going right for us, but it is quite rare for this state of serenity to last for more than a few moments. The real trick is to have peace at all times despite what is going on around you, despite not knowing everything that has happened, is happening, or will happen. The key is abiding in and trusting the One who made all things and will, through His son, make all things new.   

For the one who believes and lives in the love of God, there is no fear because they know that God is going to one day redeem this broken world and that even if they suffer here and now, the never-ending glory experienced in the redeemed world will make anything faced now blur from focus and memory. What many of us fear now will have no power when one has placed their hope and life in the hands of a loving Father. The mark of a fearless child of God is that they love one another. If you aren’t yet living without fear, worry, or anxiety, it seems like John would suggest it is because you haven’t yet truly known the love of God and begun to live in that love and live it out. If that’s the case, return to the gospel written by the beloved disciple (John) and read of the one who reveals God’s great love for us. 

-Joel Fletcher

Reflection Questions

  1. What impact has fear had on your life? How have you let it control what you do or don’t do?
  2. How has God given us an example of how to love? What does it mean to you that He loved you first?
  3. The end of 1 John 4 says we can’t love God and hate our brother. How can you show better love for all your brothers and sisters? Who in particular do you need to love better?
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The Implications of Living in God’s Love pt. 2 

Old Testament: Jeremiah 33 & 34

Poetry: Proverbs 20

New Testament: 1 John 3

“For this is the message that you have heard from the beginning, that we should love one another.” 1 John 3:11 

Implication #2: we must love one another 

Children of God 

There is an expression you may have heard that goes something like “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree”, which is usually used to mean that a son is quite like their father in one or many ways. Sometimes it is used to praise someone who has shown virtue, other times it is used to lament how vices are handed down like heirlooms no one wants. John, similarly, calls those who have virtue from living in the love of God, children of God.  

As we can see from 1 John 3:1 and will see again tomorrow in 4:19, God’s love initiates our ability to be His children. God loves us, calls us to become a part of His family, and leaves it to us to respond positively to this call or to reject it. When we accept this call, we are not immediately transformed into a full-fledged twin of Jesus (the perfect son of God). As John points out in 3:2 what we will look like once God’s love has completed its work in us is not known. We have only seen God through mediators. One day that will change, and we will be like Him–which is an exciting and terrifying notion.  

In the meantime 

While we don’t know what we will be like in the future, John tells us what the love of God means for how we live now. We are to love one another. At the very least this means we must love those who are within the body of Christ. Some would like us to stop there. At times it seems an insurmountable challenge. However, an argument could be made and perhaps should be made that the child of God should love everyone. This is the view I hold. To paraphrase Jesus: “even the wicked take care of their own” (Matthew 5:47). The follower of Christ, however, is to love everyone. After all, God causes the sun to shine on the good and the bad (Matthew 5:45) and Christ died to save those who needed saving—that is to say, EVERYONE.  

The question of how to love 

Once one becomes a Christian and understands the need to love, the necessary question of how to love will follow. John anticipates this question and gives the answer: love how Jesus taught to love (3:23). When we love the way Jesus taught (and how he himself loved), it will show that we are the children of God and will keep us abiding in God.  

The question of how we can possibly love like Jesus 

Knowing that we should love like Jesus will not mean that we will love like Jesus. In fact, simply trying to do so will only lead to the frustrating realization that we can’t. That is to say, the apprentice will never be able to outdo the master so long as they remain an apprentice. Maybe thinking about it this way isn’t helpful since it seems hard to believe we will ever reach the same level of righteousness as Jesus–at least not while the world is still unredeemed. Maybe this is why John mentions the bit about not knowing what we will be. However, John does hint at how we can love in the way Jesus did: by the spirit of God within us. Only when we have the spirit of God working through us can we love as Jesus loved. This is the only way we can love our neighbors, love our enemies, and love our brothers and sisters in Christ.  

There’s one more implication of living in God’s love I want to mention, but it will have to wait until tomorrow.  

-Joel Fletcher

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The Implications of Living in God’s Love pt. 1 

Old Testament: Jeremiah 31 & 32

Poetry: Proverbs 19

New Testament: 1 John 2

 “This is the message we have heard from him and proclaim to you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all. (1 John 1:5, ESV). 

First implication: we cannot love the world.  

Light and darkness

Light and dark have often been used metaphorically to distinguish between two diametrically opposed entities, such as good and evil. Sometimes, they are used to show a balance of two necessary things (i.e., yin and yang in Chinese philosophy). In the case of John’s first letter, however, it is a dividing line that cannot be crossed. If you love God, who is light, you cannot love the world, which is in darkness.  

Walking in the darkness 

What comes to mind when I think of walking in the darkness is trying to navigate the toy-laden path from the bedroom to the kitchen in the middle of the night. To use the metaphor of a minefield may be extreme but it captures the dangers inherent in the trek. Children love to lay stumbling blocks in their parents’ path (sometimes, they are literally blocks–the kind with sharp corners). The obstacles are only easily avoided with the help of a light. And so it is with the stumbling blocks we face in life. The Greek word skandalon found in John 2:10 may not have an etymological connection to our modern word scandal (though I would guess it does), it does speak to the dangers of loving the world. When we pursue the things the world says are inherently desirable (i.e., money, pleasure, comfort) without reservation, we can find ourselves tripped up and in a scandal.  

The importance of light 

This is why it is essential to have a handy flashlight when traversing the minefields of the unlit basement floor and to live with the enlightenment of God’s spirit while wandering as sojourners in the trap-laden lands in which we live. When we live in the love of God–that is, when we’re walking in the light, when we’re abiding (or, remaining) in God, and when we’re following the commands of His son (namely, loving one another), we can avoid the dangerous stumbling blocks that cause scandal.  

-Joel Fletcher

Reflection Questions

  1. Contrast God and the world. List 5-10 character traits of each. How do you know which you are loving and following?
  2. Have you ever found yourself walking in spiritual blindness? What helped you see the light? What are some of the best ways to ensure you are walking in the light, not the darkness?
  3. What can you do to add a bit of God’s light for someone you know walking in darkness?
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A Proverb a Day Keeps the Folly at Bay #3

Old Testament: Jeremiah 29 & 30

Poetry: Proverbs 18

New Testament: 1 John 1

Today is the final day we’re digging deep into a single Proverb. One of the wonderful things about Proverbs is that each verse can get us thinking about things that are nowhere to be found in the text–it pushes our attention beyond what is written. This one (Proverbs 18:11, ESV) says that “[a] rich man’s wealth is his strong city, and like a high wall in his imagination.” On the surface, Solomon seems to suggest that a person who has gained wealth has put themselves in a good position–setting themselves up for a life free from worry. But is this what Solomon was getting at and is this how we should view wealth?  

What is often overlooked about money is why it is valuable. The currency we hold on paper, plastic, or even digitally gives us power–the ability to buy things we need to survive and things we want to have for a more pleasing life. If money didn’t give us this power, we wouldn’t want it. There are still societies today that do not use money as we know it, where people use other means to exchange things for survival. But if you are reading this, you are likely in the wealthy half of the world and money is an important part of how your life runs–so, you need to know how to use this thing that gives you the power to live in the 21st century.  

We seem to take it for granted that having money allows us to live without worrying about where our food and water will come from. This speaks to the vast difference between our day and Solomon’s. Back then, when there was a famine, almost everyone had to deal with it. Now, if you are lucky enough to live in a country like the US, you may not even notice or care how crops do from one year to the next–it doesn’t really affect you. Our money offers a sort of protection against the worry that has absorbed most of human history and still does in many parts of the world today. Perhaps this is what Solomon meant about wealth being a strong city: its protection. 

But as one can see throughout history, strong cities often fall (however surprising their downfalls seem in the heights of their power). This brings us to consider Solomon’s words from another angle. No matter how much comfort and security our money may give us, it could be gone in a moment–our grasp on our wealth is weak. But this doesn’t have to be a scary thing for us. It could be liberating. It could be the catalyst to pursue that which isn’t fragile–something strong, enduring, made to last. Where do we find such a thing?  

There are several of Jesus’ teachings on money recorded in the Gospels that reflect the disadvantages of trusting in wealth. The most important teachings, I think, are about what we should value instead of money. In the sixth chapter of Matthew, Jesus tells his disciples not to store up treasures here on earth, that they can only serve one master (or become double-minded), and that they shouldn’t be worried about all the things they need money to buy. Instead, he tells them that they should have treasure in Heaven, and that they should seek after the Kingdom of God and His righteousness. If they do, they won’t have to worry about other things (the things people usually worry about).   

When we take the words of Jesus and Solomon together, a clearer picture of wealth begins to develop. Sure, money can do a lot of things for us–it can generally grant security and peace of mind for a moment–but it is still fragile. It can be compared to a magnificent city. In our imagination, we can envision it as a high wall. But walls crumble and cities fall–often rapidly and without much warning. We may think our money can keep us safe, but without warning that could change. We must find something else to put our trust in, we must find something else that isn’t prone to the same weaknesses as cash. Inflation may affect the purchasing power of a dollar, but it cannot affect the power of the kingdom of God. Nothing can and nothing will shake the kingdom of God—if we trust in it and not our money, fear won’t shake us either.   

-Joel Fletcher

Reflection Questions

  1. What gives you security? What do you put your trust in?
  2. What are the dangers of putting your trust in your money?
  3. What other Proverbs and Biblical teachings come to mind regarding what view we should take towards money and how we should use it?
  4. What do you know about God and His Kingdom that you can trust in?
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A Proverb a Day Keeps the Folly at Bay #2

Old Testament: Jeremiah 27 & 28

Poetry: Proverbs 17

New Testament: 1st, 2nd & 3rd John Intro – found below

 

Today is the second of a three-day exploration of single-proverb contemplation. This time we will be considering Proverbs 17:9, which reads in the ESV, “[w]hoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends.”  

There are basically two responses to the wrongdoing of your friend. You can, as they say in Brooklyn, “forget about it” or you can act in the same way one’s credit report does—that is, holding every delinquent payment against them. Friendships are meant to last but cannot if they are a score-keeping struggle. There will always be disparities, but the goal is not to get even. The goal is to give your best. If you are worried that the other person isn’t putting in the same amount of effort as you, sure, you could bring it up, but it is not necessarily what’s best for your relationship. So, what is? 

Paul explains in his first letter to the Christians in Corinth that true love doesn’t keep a record of wrongs (1 Corinthians 13:5). For the Christian, it cannot be that we hold the mistakes of our brothers and sisters over their heads. Does this mean that we shouldn’t hold people accountable for their actions? Certainly not. This verse speaks to a healthy Christian relationship. In a healthy relationship, the two parties will not be engaged in constant offenses against one another. When this happens, the relationship cannot be defined as healthy and will not likely be a relationship for much longer if the problems are not acknowledged and addressed. To keep a healthy relationship healthy, each person must make a habit of not bringing up the mistakes the other has made.  

If someone is constantly causing offense against you, perhaps the best thing to do is withdraw. Especially in cases where there is violence (physical or verbal), the victim should not pretend like nothing wrong is happening. I pray you never find yourself in a violent relationship. This advice is not for such cases. When the other person is causing you great fear, seek help.  

If you find yourself continually bringing up a friend’s (or, spouse’s) wrongdoing, ask yourself why you keep doing it. Do you think that relationships are supposed to be (or, that it’s even possible for them to be) even, 50/50? Are your own insecurities leading you to point out flaws in others to make you feel better about yourself? Could you be worried that the hurt from your past will repeat itself in the future? Whatever may be the reason you keep bringing up your friend’s past mistakes, it cannot continue if you want the relationship to. There may be some difficult conversations that need to take place, but a little difficulty now is worth the chance of saving a relationship, making it stronger, or even changing the type of relationship it is (if it’s for the best). Relationships cannot flourish if one or both parties are holding on to the hurts of the past. Forgiveness is essential for relationships with others. When we bring up hurt, we are showing that we’re still holding on to offense and maybe haven’t forgiven the other person.  

If you are the one in the relationship whose action keeps getting brought up – be sure that those actions that are mentioned aren’t something you keep doing. If you keep doing something harmful maybe you shouldn’t be surprised if a human being with feelings keeps bringing it up. If it is something for which the other person has supposedly forgiven you, but they won’t let you forget it, let them know that their continuing to mention it is hurting you and making you feel like they haven’t really forgiven you. This may be a tough conversation. Perhaps the other person doesn’t realize that it hurts you (hopefully, they don’t realize it). But make sure it doesn’t become a score-keeping battle. It is entirely possible that you don’t realize you’re doing the same thing to them. Make sure you are aware of how you are speaking to them and how it is affecting them. And always remember that love covers a multitude of sin (1 Peter 4:8).  

-Joel Fletcher

Reflection Questions

  1. Think of a time when someone could have brought up one of your past mistakes but didn’t, how did it make you feel?
  2. Do you sometimes think of some of your relationships as a score-keeping battle? Why is this harmful? What is a better view? And how can you remind yourself of this when you slip back into score-keeping mode?

1 – 3 John Introduction

First, Second, and Third John were written by “the elder”, who is believed to be John, the son of Zebedee, the disciple Jesus loved.  This is the same John who wrote the gospel of John and the book of Revelation.

John started out his message explaining that he saw, heard, and touched Jesus, and wanted to bring the next generation of believers into fellowship with “us” (apostles? believers?), and into fellowship with God and with his Son, Jesus Christ.

The two overriding themes of the three books are:  Love, and beware of false teachings.

John explained that God is light, and that people need to walk in the light by obeying Jesus’ commands.  He echoed Jesus’ command that believers should love God and should love one another.  And warned believers not to love the world, because the world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever.

John also warned the church to beware of false teachers who deny that Jesus is the Christ (messiah), trying to lead people away from the truth.  He warned that false prophets did not acknowledge that Jesus had come in the flesh – this is the spirit of antichrist.  John urged believers to “test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the  world.”

He pointed out the great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called the children of God.  He wrote, “this is how we know what love is:  Jesus Christ laid down his life for us.  And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters.”

Continuing on the theme of love, John wrote, “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.”

In his conclusion to the book of First John, John wrote, “I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God so that you may know that you have eternal life.”

-Steve Mattison

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A Proverb a Day Keeps the Folly at Bay #1

Old Testament: Jeremiah 25-26

Poetry: Proverbs 16

New Testament: 2 Peter 3

Over the next few days, I’d like the reader to notice how much wisdom is condensed in each of Solomon’s pithy proverbs and how they can help us live better. Sound good? When looking at the Proverbs (or any Old Testament passage), we must always remember that, though these passages were written before Jesus was born, it is both appropriate and beneficial to interpret and apply the passages to our lives in light of the revelation of God’s son. Each time you read a passage in Proverbs, consider taking a deeper dive into just one verse to see how the reflections of someone a few thousand years removed from our modern context can still have relevance to our plight in this broken world.  

The proverb I want to consider and meditate on today is Proverbs 16:22, which in the English Standard Version goes like this:  

“Good sense is a fountain of life to him who has it, but the instruction of fools is folly.” 

I’m not sure if good sense has ever really been common or if “common sense” is what Solomon would consider good. From my perspective (maybe I’m just getting old and crotchety at 29), there isn’t much good sense flowing freely in our society–just turn on the TV or scroll down your social media feed. There is some, however, and where it is found, it is like a fountain flowing within an oasis in a barren, desert land.  

I’ve heard (though I can’t remember where) that most people who get behind the wheel of a car (the number I heard was above 90%) in both this country (USA) and in the land of our cousins across the pond (GB) believe themselves to be above-average drivers. If you consider this for a moment, you will realize how absurd this is. I think most people (I would guess north of 90%) have at least a small blind spot in their relationship to reality. I know I have at times overestimated my ability to maneuver a motor vehicle at high speeds (no accidents, yet…not a high speed, anyway).  

This inability to see ourselves in relation to the world clearly could be called folly, while the ability to do so can be deemed wisdom. The wise person, who has good sense, will receive instruction, discipline, and correction as a means of growth. The foolish person, who has a lack of sense, will see things such as teaching, reproof, and direction as an unnecessary waste of time, something only for those who “need” it. Because of this, the wise will continue to flourish like a tree soaking in the life it receives from water and nutrients, while the folly of the fool will ensure the continued degradation of their weakly rooted weed–that is, their inner life. 

This proverb takes on a new meaning in light of the Good news. Jesus gives living water and refreshes and restores those who have the good sense to recognize their need for him. Despite our lack of self-awareness, if we turn our attention to Jesus–that is, if we are aware of our need for his help, mercy, and kindness, we can drink from the fountain of life in a new sense (in the best sense). To see Jesus and not recognize our need for him as Savior is the highest form of folly. Exercise good sense and drink the water that satisfies like nothing else.  

-Joel Fletcher

Reflection Questions

  1. On a scale of 1-10 how would you rate your own “good sense”? How do you think those who know you well would rate you? Are there any specific areas where you might benefit from a more accurate view of yourself and reality?
  2. Do you recognize your need for Jesus to be your Savior? If so, how would you explain it to someone who didn’t?
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