When we began this week on Sunday we read about Spiritual gifts in chapter 12. We saw that there is no “I” in “team” and that everyone in the church has gifts and needs to be using their gifts to help the church grow and carry out its mission.
There is one key transitional sentence at the end of chapter 12 leading into chapter 13: “And I will show you a still more excellent way.” The more excellent way is the way of love. From Monday to Friday, we have looked at love, not as an abstract idea but as a concrete set of actions. Love is made up of behaviors that are patterned after God. When we love we show people who God is and what God does.
Today, we look at how Paul closes out this “Love chapter” in verses 8-13:
Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.
So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.
Here as Paul brings this section to completion he brings home the point. It’s important to be gifted, to use your gifts and talents to serve in the Church and to serve God in the world, but as important as those gifts are, they are not the ultimate or final good, they are penultimate or next to last good. To speak a prophetic word to exhort a congregation is important, to exercise the gift of speaking to the world in ways that are understood by people of different languages is valuable, and knowledge is a necessary good to a flourishing life and church, but all of these are penultimate good, not ultimate. They will give way to the eternal, but love will outlast everything. At the end of all things love for God is love.
I’m getting older and I have some serious health challenges which remind me that I am a mortal person. Unless Jesus Christ returns very soon I will one day join those who have gone to “sleep in the dust of the earth” (Daniel 12:2) awaiting the resurrection. As I get closer to my personal end, I am more aware of that which is truly most important in life. It’s not my accomplishments, it’s not how much money I’ve earned, at the end of the day what matters most is “Did I love?” Jesus summed up the entire teaching of God with 2 things: “Love God and Love others”. Paul is adding more depth and clarity to what love looks like and what we all should aspire to be. Every morning we should ask, “God, how can I love well today?” And at the end of the day ask “God, how well did I love today?”
Reflection Questions
When you hear the words “Love never ends” what comes to your mind?
Why do you think Paul says that being loving is even more important than being gifted?
When will you start to begin your days asking “God, how can I love well today?” And at the end of the day ask “God, how well did I love today?”
For the rest of this week, we are going to be looking each day at small sections of one chapter in the Bible- 1 Corinthians 13. When I was a kid I was taught that 1 Corinthians 15 is the Resurrection chapter, Hebrews 11 is the Hope chapter, and 1 Corinthians 13 is the Love chapter. If you’ve ever been to a wedding ceremony there is a good chance that you’ve heard all or at least a portion of this read as part of the ceremony. Today we will look at verses 1-3:
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.
This is such a timely reading for me to consider. For the past 3 years, I’ve been working toward receiving my Doctorate of Ministry from Vanderbilt Divinity School in Nashville. It’s been a lot of hard work. For my project I read hundreds of articles and books, conducted interviews, presented ideas to colleagues, tested ideas on various groups, and wrote, edited, re-wrote, and re-edited until I had a project to present to my committee. Then after my committee read it, we met and I had to defend my project thesis orally. Finally, on April 9 I passed. On May 10 I’ll graduate and receive my official title D.Min, Doctor of Ministry in Integrative Mental Health Chaplaincy. The afternoon I passed my wife Karen said “Hello, Dr. Fletcher.” I said, “That’s the only time you’re ever going to call me that, right?” She said, “Absolutely, I hope you enjoyed it.”
So, I’ve been feeling relieved, accomplished, grateful, and good about having achieved this milestone in my academic and professional career.
But God had a lot more to teach me. And Brother Paul put his finger on it. In 1 Corinthians 13:1-3 Paul is saying a lifetime of accomplishments, being a gifted speaker, full of knowledge, or being spiritually gifted with miraculous powers, in the absence of concrete acts of love, is just a bunch of noise. You can get all the degrees and accolades and knowledge, but if you don’t put love into practice, it’s a bunch of noise and worthless.
It reminds me of a story I once heard: There was a child psychologist who was famous and had written many best-selling books on parenting and how to raise children. Recently, he had spent many hours constructing a new driveway at his home. Just after he smoothed the surface of the freshly poured concrete, his neighbors’ small children chased a ball across the driveway, leaving deep footprints. The man yelled after them with a torrent of angry words. His shocked neighbor heard these words and said to him, “You’re a psychologist who’s supposed to love children.” The fuming man shouted, “I love children in the abstract, not in the concrete!”
Paul is saying in I Corinthians 13:1-3 that love in the abstract is worthless.
A few days later, God showed me what love in the concrete looks like. I shared the following story on my Facebook page recently. It resonated with a lot of people because it’s been shared hundreds of times and I’ve heard more responses to it than anything else I’ve ever posted on social media. It illustrates to me what Love in the Concrete looks like:
I met Jesus yesterday. Face to face.
He’s a cashier at a grocery store in Front Royal, Virginia.
I was on my way home from work after a busy Monday visiting sick patients at the hospital, supporting families as their loved ones face the end of life, helping people struggling with addiction and staff cope with the challenges of being full-time caregivers. I’m a chaplain and a pastor, that’s what I do all day. It’s what I’ve trained to do, studied, practiced.
But then, yesterday, out of the blue, with no warning I met Jesus working the register at a grocery store.
First, I saw him patiently help the customer ahead of me. The one who only had 3 items in her cart, was very confused trying to figure out how much she could spend because she needed to have enough left over. He was gentle and patient with her. He couldn’t be more than his late teens, maybe early 20s, but he was attentive and caring. No eye rolls or looks of frustration, just caring for this confused and frustrated woman. (I was the one who was frustrated at how long it was taking).
Then it was finally my turn to check out. He was a thin young man, wearing a cross made of horseshoe nails and wire. He smiled and asked gently, “May I pray for you?”
That was unexpected and caught me completely off guard. I said, “Yes, please.” I was so moved that this young man would take the time to notice me and ask if he could pray for me. This was more than a transactional relationship for him. He was there to do more than simply earn his paycheck and go home. He saw me as more than an object, a thing to help pay his bills, he saw me as a person, a human being made in the image of God, who has a life outside of this 5-minute transaction and has needs that can be helped by God’s intervention. I was deeply moved.
But he wasn’t finished.
“What would you like me to pray for?” What should I say? How specific should I be? Should I say, “I’m currently under treatment for 2 types of advanced cancer and trying my best to keep going?” Should I tell him about my concerns about family members that I love, my desire to help my Church grow, and all the needs of the people I visit and staff I serve in the hospital?
There wasn’t time to go into all of that, so I simply said “My health.”
He stopped and said, “So you are having health problems. I’ll pray for that.”
By then the tears were starting to well up in me and I hurriedly helped him bag my groceries so I could get out of there before I started ugly crying in the grocery store check-out line.
But he wasn’t done yet.
“What’s your name?” That about finished me off. He wasn’t just making conversation or using spiritual cliches like “I’ll pray for you” as well-intentioned people often do, but sometimes forget to actually do. I knew that he really meant it. He was and is praying for me, Jeff, who has health needs. And based on what I saw, he’s already pretty close to God. So I have a feeling God will listen attentively to his prayers.
As I sat in my car afterward waiting for the tears to subside, I had the overwhelming sense that I had just spent time with Jesus.
I met Jesus yesterday.
He works as a cashier at a grocery store in Front Royal, Virginia.
Since I shared this on Facebook I’ve had dozens of people who live locally write to me or tell me in the hospital that this same young man has left others equally in tears when he prayed for them and they, too, equally felt touched by Jesus.
This young man probably doesn’t have a doctorate in spiritual care, but you don’t need one of those to show people concrete love in the name of Jesus. Go and be Jesus wherever you are today.
Pastor Jeff Fletcher
Reflection Questions
Name a time when you were surprised by God’s love revealed to you in unexpected places.
How would you describe the difference between abstract love and concrete love?
The young man showed Jesus’ love while checking people out at the grocery store. Where can you show the love of Jesus today?
As a child, I remember making an emergency run to the neighborhood store with my Mom for a box of cereal. It was the night before Valentine’s Day. Our teacher had told us to decorate a cereal box to transform it into our personal Valentine’s Day mail box. Of course, I had forgotten all about this class project until the night before it was due. Everyone in our class would buy a pack of cards. I liked opening my box of cards and reading through each one as I addressed and signed them. I was so excited to drop the cards in the other boxes for my classmates. The class card exchange has been a long-standing tradition and a fun way for kids to express fondness for classmates. Expressing fondness, admiration or appreciation for others is definitely a skill that I want to pass on to the next generation. And more importantly, I want all of us to be able to express our love to God and show the love of God to others. In fact, Jesus taught us that the greatest commandment is to love the Lord our God with all our heart, soul, mind and strength and the second commandment is to love our neighbor as ourselves.(Mark 12:29-31)
The LORD has always shown human beings His love. He created us, cares for us, provides for us, sustains us…His interactions show His love because God is Love. The love that God shows us is perfect love, agape love. You know that perfect love of God: love that is patient, kind, not envious, not boastful, not proud. Love that doesn’t dishonor others, is not self-seeking, is not easily angered, and doesn’t keep a record of wrongs. This love doesn’t delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. (1 Corinthians 13) You know. That kind of love. The love that never fails.
Moses had many opportunities to experience the LORD’s love through his own life and through the LORD’s interaction with the Hebrew people. But leading this rebellious group had Moses seeking God more than ever. He pleaded for His presence to go with them on their journey and he asked to see God’s glory. God grants his request. Early in the morning, Moses heads up Mount Sinai with the new stone tablets in his hands. We see Moses being rewarded for seeking a close, loving relationship with the LORD. The LORD came down in the cloud and stood there with him. He passed in front of Moses, proclaiming, “The LORD, the LORD, the compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness, maintaining love to thousands, and forgiving wickedness, rebellion and sin.” (Exodus 34:6 & 7)
Just like Moses, we are so thankful for who the LORD is-abounding in love and maintaining love to thousands. But the LORD also states that He is just. He does not leave the guilty unpunished. That is the part that might scare us. After all, every one of us has sinned and come short of the glory of God. But the fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom and it is wise to realize that God is bigger than we are and has our lives in his hands. But as we grow closer to God, we realize that He wants all people to be saved and to come to a knowledge of the truth. He truly wants only the best for us. What Jesus called abundant life. Our fear of the Lord should motivate us to repentance and acceptance of His Son. As 1 John 4:18 states, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” His amazing love for the world was so great that He gave us His only begotten Son, our Lord Jesus Christ. In love God offers us the opportunity to believe in Jesus and receive eternal life. (John 3:16) So it is time to walk closely with the LORD allowing Him to fill us with His perfect love.
The book of Jonah fascinates me. I think the main reason is that my understanding of it has changed so much since I first heard the story as a child. And honestly, even now when I read it, my opinion of Jonah is still changing as I keep changing.
In children’s’ classes, the story of Jonah is typically used as an example of obedience to God. He didn’t listen at first, but then he was swallowed by a large fish and changed his mind and went and did what God told him to do. So that was my opinion of Jonah growing up for the most part – great example of obedience.
I know I had read through the whole book, but I must have glossed over the ending. As a parent, I understand why most classes do stop at Jonah’s obedience to God in going to Nineveh. My kids need good examples. They don’t really need more ideas of bad behavior or attitudes – they can come up with plenty on their own.
When I got a little older and continued to read through this story, it finally struck me – yes, Jonah did obey God’s direction to go to Nineveh, but 1) that was after he had been swallowed by a giant fish, lived, and was spit back out, and 2)his behavior is like a child telling a sibling they were sorry for hitting them because they were told by their parents to do that. Not because they really felt sorry and wanted to, but because they were made to. His obedience didn’t really seem to come from the heart.
And we see that as the book continues. He did what God asked. He told the Ninevites that they were doing bad things and that God was going to destroy their city. And this changed their lives! They turned from their evil ways – at least for a time; we do know they went back to evil – but Jonah didn’t care about that. He only wanted to see the destruction that he preached.
While this isn’t the example I want to present to my children, I get it. Jonah speaks to me as an adult as a reminder that I can’t just do the “right” thing. I have to do it with the right heart. It reminds me of 1 Corinthians 13 which lists all these things that one could do that are good, but says “but if I have not love, I am nothing.” We can do all the right things. By the book. But if we do them without love, does it really matter?
The Ninevites were saved for a time by Jonah’s preaching. His reluctant obedience made a difference for their lives. But did it make a difference in Jonah’s own life? I think God can use our reluctant obedience to still make a breakthrough to others, to serve them. But when we do things without love, we miss out on the best God has for us – the joy and blessings of serving.
More on Jonah tomorrow.
~Stephanie Fletcher
Reflection Questions
When have you obeyed – but reluctantly and with a wrong heart? In your case was that better than not obeying at all? How might have things been different if you had obeyed – done the right thing – with a right heart?
Re-read Jonah’s prayer in Jonah 2. What do you learn from Jonah in this prayer?
Old Testament Reading: Numbers Introduction – see below
1 Corinthians 13 (The Love Chapter) actually begins at the end of Chapter 12 with these words, “And now I will show you the most excellent way.” Paul has just wrapped up his lists of Spiritual gifts, reminding us that we, as Christians, are all members of the body of Christ. After telling us that we should desire the higher (more essential or useful) gifts, he states that there is an even better way to be useful to the body. The most excellent way.
Chapter 13 begins with an IF. IF I am great, IF I can do great things, IF I can understand great things, IF I make great sacrifices….
What are you really good at? Known for? Everyone in our church knows Todd is phenomenal with numbers. He has often said it’s too bad he can’t make a living impressing people with his quick math skills. Everyone is good at something, but that might not matter in the big picture.
The IF part in the first three verses is followed each time with “but have not love”. You can be the greatest at everything, but if you don’t have love you are “a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal”, “nothing’, “gain nothing”. That’s pretty powerful. What motivates us to do what we do obviously matters a great deal. Paul is trying to communicate with us the overriding importance of love.
You’ve probably heard verses 4-8a read at a wedding. A beautiful description of how to love. One that we cannot fully accomplish in our humanity. Pulling from different translations, here is the description of true love:
Love is: patient; kind; rejoices with the truth; bears all things; believes all things; hopes all things; endures all things; it always protects, trusts, hopes, and perseveres; it never ends or fails.
Love is not: it does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant, proud, or rude; it does not insist on its own way; it is not self-seeking; it is not easily angered; it keeps no record of wrongs; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing.
Love won’t end. Spiritual gifts, and our need for them will end. Prophecies will end. Speaking in tongues will end. Knowledge will end. Love will not end.
Keep in mind as you read these lists that God loves us like that. God loves YOU like that. John 13:34-35 says, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” We are to love others how God loves us. It’s what shows the world we are His.
-Todd and Amy Blanchard
Reflection Questions
Do you KNOW that God loves you with a love that is described here? Do you FEEL His love? What steps might you need to take to assure yourself of that love?
On a scale of 1-10, how well do you love others (following the description of love in this chapter)?
Which of the “Love is” or “Love is not” traits do you see from God in your life right now?
NUMBERS INTRODUCTION
The book of Numbers gets its name from the census that was taken both at the beginning of the book, while the Israelites were still at Mount Sinai, and also at the end of the book, when the Israelites were on the plains of Moab near Jericho 38 years later. And in case you’re wondering why it took the ancient Israelites so long to travel from Egypt to the Promised Land, you’ll find out in chapters 13 and 14. And by the way, this wasn’t just a small group of people walking through the desert – there were millions of them.
As you read through Numbers, you will see repeatedly that there are consequences for complaining and rebellion – and they aren’t good. Punishments range from fire from the Lord to the earth swallowing people alive to plagues to snakes. There will even be punishment for Moses’ striking a rock instead of speaking to it – because he didn’t obey God’s command.
You will read about Moses begging God repeatedly to spare the people, when God wanted to wipe them out because of their rebellion – reminding us of what Jesus is doing on our behalf in heaven right now. You’ll also read about a bronze snake lifted up on a pole, which Jesus compared with himself.
The story of Balaam and his talking donkey show that God can use anyone, even a donkey, even me, even you. You’ll also read about how Balaam told the Moabites what to do to cause God to curse Israel – even after Balaam had blessed Israel. And you’ll read that he paid with his life.
Numbers is filled with excitement, and also with examples – both good and bad. Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 10:6, “Now these things occurred as examples to keep us from setting our hearts on evil things as they did.” So pay attention as you read.
I’ll close with Numbers 6:24-26, “The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine upon you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.”
“Now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”
“They” call 1 Corinthians 13 “the love chapter”. It’s quoted from at most weddings. So what is it talking about? I don’t think it is a coincidence that Paul discusses love and speaking in tongues (a gift involving the ability to speak unique languages), in the same chapter. Love is difficult to put into words.
In my work as a Funeral Director and Deputy Coroner, I am often at a loss for words. I frequently have opportunity to speak with families when there is nothing to say. Nothing that should be said, anyway. That certainly doesn’t stop some people from trying. I’ve heard people say all kinds of stuff to try to comfort the grieving. Most of it, frankly, has no basis in scripture or reality. Sometimes I wish I had a platitude and cliché bingo card I could pull out of my pocket and shout “BINGO!”. About the only right thing to do in that situation is nothing at all.
My father-in-law is a pastor and has served as Chaplain for a local fire department for a number of years and he recently commented during a sermon about how in most situations when the fire department is needed, if the crew showed up and just stood there people would say “Don’t just stand there, DO SOMETHING!” But when it comes to the work of a fire chaplain, the best approach is “Don’t do something, JUST STAND THERE!” I liked that line. I have stolen it and shared it with coworkers several times. When a person has lost everything they don’t need a preacher, they need a presence. To be able to just be present, is a gift. (Do you see what I did there?).
As Christians, being confronted with a sudden and unexpected death is like being the pilot in charge of an airplane when the engines stall. All that is really left at that point is faith, hope and love. What words of comfort can you give when you know that a person did not have faith in Jesus Christ? What chapter of systematic theology will you turn to for the family who has no hope in The coming Kingdom?
I said before, our dog is named Zippers due to her urge to chew on our coat zippers. If we named our children using that method, one of my sons might have been named “Whacko”. He has always liked to “whack” things with sticks. When he was two years old we bought him a Sesame Street drum set for Christmas.
It was a pretty cool toy. It came with a little stool to sit on. It had a pedal for the bass drum. It is hard to see in this picture, but there was even a tiny metal cymbal. Man, did he love to whack that thing!
I honestly don’t know what ever happened to that drum set but I have a feeling it found its way to “a better place”. The place where all the noisy toys end up. You know the toys I’m talking about- the Jack in the boxes, the little microphones with the spring inside that toddlers yell…I mean sing into, the Fisher Price Pop “Corn Poppers” that aunts and uncles buy for their nephews as revenge for the year you wrapped up too many candy canes… We’ve all had noisy toys like that.
Those noisy toys are exactly what I picture when I read 1 Corinthians Chapter 13. To paraphrase, Paul says all of those gifts of the spirit we just talked about in the last chapter are great. I’d really like for you to have ‘em, but in the end all that really matters is faith, hope and love. Of those three qualities, if you only have room for one, choose love because when the rubber hits the road, what people need to know is that God loves them more than anyone has ever loved them. All the rest is just noise.
-Brian Froehlich
Application questions:
What is the noisiest toy you had as a child?
What is the “noisiest” thing in your life right now?
Have you ever had a friend who was just silently present with you when you needed them?
The simplest truth about human relationships is that if we just loved one another a bit more, we would have fewer problems. I know, it is a bit cliche, but it doesn’t make it any less true. Our focus would be consistently outward. We would be ready to listen and meet the needs of others. God has made it pretty clear that the most hardened heart can soften by showing the quality that embodies who He is, yet it is a weapon we often leave unwelded. We often list our harshness or judgements under the guise of “tough love”, and this may or may not be true on a case-by-case basis. However, we must stick closely to the prescribed path in 1 Corinthians 13. It actually might be simpler to love “toughly”, but if you simply write people off, or find a way to punish them, or speak your mind without backing it up with the many other qualities listed here, you are a hollow box and a lot of noise. What’s tough love, really tough love, is to love someone who isn’t concerned in the slightest with being like God at the moment, or even ever. Love never fails. So you must love. You absolutely must. And your love must be like God’s love. Below I reworded one of the most famous passages of scriptures (v.4-7) that coincides with our reading and, most likely, one of the last handful of weddings you attended. My goal isn’t to add to the list, only to reword it to give it novelty in hopes to make it challenging or convicting instead of a rehearsal of familiar words. If it helps tune your mind to God’s love, wonderful. If it is a confusing mess, don’t read it. My concern is that you know loving is tough, especially those whose actions betray your love. That shouldn’t stop you. But THAT is tough love. And THAT is what God shows to each one of us on the daily.
For God to come in and change the “unlovable” (mind you, this can be and has been you), you must sit and listen. Listen to their problems and hear them say what they think, even if you don’t agree. You have to include them, share with them, and treat them with dignity, even if they are not concerned in the slightest about having any. To love, you have to let others be great and cheer them on. Sometimes this means the spotlight will come off of you, or you are treated as less important. If you are loving, you’re not concerned with that, because in love, others come first. Love holds back the insults, name-calling, and doesn’t attack a person made in the image of God. True love can be shown without expecting anything in return and can be left unreciprocated. On rare occasions, you can have angry love. You can be mad at someone because they are doing some serious sin damage to others or even him/herself. But you don’t start there. You don’t live there. You are truthful with someone, because lying is not loving. But you retreat quickly from the fight, and fill the space with mercy, more patience, and more kindness. That means love is forgiveness, and not holding grudges. We can love those who have wronged us. We can love those who have besmirched our reputation, injured our family through carelessness, or hate us because of our beliefs. We may know their wrong to us as a historical account, but not as an emotional one, and we thank God we have an opportunity to show love to them in such a way. In fact, loving like God means that you would actually stand-up for this person who has done you the greatest harm. Loving someone means that you are trusting without “but.” And that can be so hard. But trusting in God first and foremost allows you to do that. Believe in people. Never give up on people. Much easier said than done. It’s tough. So tough. But don’t let it stop you from trying. Your efforts are to help others see God, and they will know His love because it has been extended to and shown through you.
-Aaron Winner
Today’s Bible reading passages can be read or listened to at BibleGateway here –Esther 1-2 and 1 Corinthians 13
I Corinthians 13. The ‘love’ chapter. Has any passage of Scripture been read at more weddings?
Let me ask you, what’s the difference between the wedding and the marriage? We typically spend years planning and orchestrating one to be perfect and we waltz into the other without a thought and expect it to go off without a hitch. And that’s sad.
It’s sad that this passage that so eloquently captures what real love should be is relegated to a romantic poem.
This description of love is raw. It is get your hands dirty, give up your ‘rights’, lay down what you want, doesn’t feel good kind of real.
Patient
Kind
Trusting
Humble
Not rude
Not selfish
Not angry
Doesn’t bring up past wrongs
Protective
Never gives up
Who wouldn’t want to be married to THAT person?! Right? But being that person, well, that’s a big ask.
I think it’s great if you want to read this passage at your wedding. (Pro tip if you do: Rehearse) But remember to take the time to dig in to each one of these descriptors that Paul gives us. You know which ones are hardest for you.
Think about how many hours you put into wedding planning. Does your marriage deserve any less?
Check out this post that includes some helpful resources for building a strong marriage as well as advice from a number of married couples that have stood the test of time: https://thesparrowshome.com/marriage-resources-advice/
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