Simon Peter asked him, “Lord, where are you going?” Jesus replied, “Where I am going, you cannot follow now, but you will follow later.” Peter asked, “Lord, why can’t I follow you now? I will lay down my life for you.” – John 13:36-37
“It’s time to go!” says a voice calling from the driver’s seat indicating you might be left behind if you don’t leave now. A friend or a family member receives your last look, a last hug, a last “see you later”, and maybe a tear or two. It never gets any easier to say goodbye to people we love, yet such is the nature of life. To move in the direction of God, often means to experience seasons of friends and family being at varying distances. I would imagine it was difficult for Jesus to say goodbye to his friends like Lazarus, his mother, Mary, and the eleven remaining apostles whom He spent a great deal of time with on this earth. But He was called to be somewhere else, to mediate between us and God (1 Tim 2:5) and to prepare us for a time when He can be with us all who love Him and keep His will.
In Revelation 19, we are given a picture of the marriage supper of the Lamb. This is an event where the church will be reunited to celebrate with Christ – altogether, simultaneously, fulfilling the promise in Hebrews that no one would be left out but “God had planned something better for us so that only together with us would they be made perfect.” – Hebrews 11:40 – Not only will we be reunited with our loved ones from our present, but also those who departed from us along the way, that fell asleep in Christ (1 Thes 4:14). We have been told this, so we don’t give up. We fight the good fight . We have the endurance to be different.
“For I am now ready to be offered, and the time of my departure is at hand. I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith:” 2 Timothy 4: 7,8
“If you keep My commandments, you will remain in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and remain in His love. I have told you these things so that My joy may be in you and your joy may be complete.” John 15:11
But for most of us, and potentially all of us reading this blog, today is not our last day of breath, but a day we leave behind someone we love, either through proximity or heaven forbid, through physical death. So how can we make sure we don’t forget about this promise to be reunited with the ones we love?
1. Seek His word in your life. First, this means reading your Bible. It is not an instrument to be used solely on Sundays and Wednesdays and at church camp. We are told that the word of God in the scripture is alive and actively ready to convict and confirm on thoughts, motives, and actions (Hebrews 4:2). You are called to live out every day for Christ, so this means the Word of God must be present. Reading and subscribing to this blog is a great start, but so is a Bible reading plan, or verse of the day bookmarks. Also, spending time in prayer is a way to monitor your spiritual life and receive direction and confirmation from God. As we seek to become more spiritually mature, we begin to thank God for a lot more, recognizing the blessings in our life that change the way we pray for the things we desire. We can pray for God’s will, or in His will, as we wait because we recognize that we are already truly blessed. This is a discipline, an exercise program. If you have been a spiritual couch potato, don’t expect to run a Bible marathon or become a prayer warrior overnight. Even introducing the smallest of these disciplines will begin to make a dramatic difference into your spiritual health.
2. Find a ministry. Do the ministry. When we become idle, when we don’t have anything to do, that is when sin gets a jump on us (Proverbs 16:27-29). We consume junk on screens, we find people to talk about, and we become open to other forms of ungodly entertainment. The devil can be just as busy binge-watching Netflix (that should step on some toes) or scrolling through social media (and the ones I missed the first time) as it is in those who are actively seeking out ways to do evil in this world. This quote by Edmund Burke addressed to another statesman rings true in the Christian life too, “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” It is time to find and actively participate in a ministry. To move from the milk to the meat. To not simply believe but to act. Don’t know where to start? Look at the list provided by Jesus in Matthew 25 as he separates the sheep and the goats. Ministry is truly a win-win. When you are busy fulfilling the Word of God, there is simply less time to get caught up in the stuff that doesn’t matter.
3. Be a part of the church. We are not called to do the above mentioned things solely in isolation. When we put our faith and trust in Jesus Christ, we become part of a greater entity: the church. It is not simply a building, in fact, it has nothing to do with the structure you meet in at all. The church is full of people who are trying to do the same as you: live better for Christ. There is a small caveat. Like you, they are not perfect yet. However, everyone in the church has their own unique gifting, function, and strengths. You don’t have to do this alone. So what if they don’t have the style of music you want at the church. So what if there isn’t a large group of people your age in the church. So what if your friends and family live far away from your church. Inside your community of believers you still have a function, can be held and hold people accountable, and find ways to strengthen and edify one another for the purpose in which you’re called. It is also important to understand the church is connected beyond the group you meet with on Sundays. Your friends at camp, your bestie from college, a group of people at a break table or lunch table can talk about and worship God together. Find a way to connect with other believers, and you will be further shored up against evil.
4. Let the grace of God do the rest. Often times when we come back from a fulfilling spiritual experience, we are immediately presented with our greatest challenges. The trajectory up of spiritual life will not be a perfect, upward-moving diagonal line. Inevitably, we will always find a spiritual low after a spiritual high. Don’t let the waves of doubt and defeat toss you and capsize the great life, truth, and hope you have. You will mess up. You will know the good you should do and not do it sometimes (Rom 7:15-20). You may go several days without reading your Bible, become stagnant in your ministry, or remove yourself from the church because you feel guilty you have committed an unforgivable sin. Don’t give up. Let God take control and understand that He gives grace to all generously. This is a free gift, so don’t waste your time “feeling bad” or “not worthy.” Take heart. Get back up. Seek God. Renew your commitment to His commandments because each day is a new day. Do everything not to depart from God, and He too, will do everything it takes to ensure you will never have to depart from Him or the ones you love that have fulfilled the same call, together united at the marriage supper of the Lamb.