-Devotion by Jerry Wierwille – today’s devotion will be over Song of Songs 4 & 5 since the first day we covered just chapter 1 we are working one chapter behind this week.
Chapters 4 and 5 of the Song of Songs deepen love by showing us the beauty of intimacy and the pain that can emerge when love feels distant. Chapter 4 is filled with admiration, while chapter 5 moves into hesitation, separation, searching, and longing. These chapters remind us that love thrives when it is expressed, protected, and pursued.
Chapter 4 of Song of Songs begins with the man speaking words of admiration and affirmation to the woman he loves (4:1-6). While we may not appreciate the imagery he uses to describe her eyes, hair, smile, lips, and appearance, they are nonetheless very romantic and poetic. And so, some comparisons may sound quite unusual to us, and perhaps even borderline insulting, but his purpose is unmistakable: he is captivated by her beauty and is not hesitant to tell her so in a multi-dimensional way. It seems as though he is drawing attention to every aspect of her that he finds lovely.
When the man concludes with, “You are all beautiful, my darling. There is no spot in you.” (4:7). To have a “spot” is the biblical expression for a flaw. Far from claiming that she is perfect, indeed, flawless in every regard, the man doesn’t see her flaws and dwell upon them or point them out to her; he loves her just the way she is.
There is an important lesson here regarding romantic relationships. Affection should not be presumed as though the other person certainly must understand how we feel. Rather, love must be verbalized and communicated. People need to hear words that build them up and remind them that they are valued. Over time, in any relationship, it can become easy to notice flaws and irritations more quickly than virtues, but healthy love intentionally looks for what is beautiful in the person and then is not ashamed or hesitant to say it out loud.
As the chapter continues, the imagery becomes more intimate. The woman is described as “a garden locked up,” “a locked up spring,” and “a sealed fountain” (4:12). These metaphors communicate that romantic relationships, and particularly sexuality, are something private, exclusive, and precious that is not available to everyone. The woman’s love and sexuality are portrayed as something carefully guarded and reserved, not common or shared with others openly.
As the chapter moves to the end, the imagery shifts to the woman inviting her beloved into the garden: “Let my beloved come into his garden and eat its delicious fruits.” (4:16). The locked garden now becomes an available garden, but by invitation only. They are committed to each other and the desire is mutual. And so, the imagery portrays how love must be welcomed, never forced or pressured.
At the beginning of chapter 5, the man responds to the woman’s invitation with great delight. The imagery points to the abundance of the garden with myrrh, spices, honey, wine, and milk. The poetry is certainly sensual and intimate. And as the chorus celebrates with the chant, “Eat, friends! Drink, yes, drink abundantly, beloved” (5:1b), the mood suddenly changes.
The woman says, “I was asleep, but my heart was awake. (5:2). Her beloved comes to the door and asks to be let in, but she hesitates. She has already taken off her robe and washed her feet. She is already in bed. Getting up would be inconvenient. Her response might sound mundane to our modern ears, but what the woman is conveying is what makes the scene so relatable. The idea being expressed is that love is sometimes interrupted not by betrayal or distrust, but by inconvenience, fatigue, hesitation, or reluctance.
By the time she changes her mind and opens the door, she finds him gone: “I opened to my beloved, but my beloved left and had gone away” (5:6). Suddenly, what seemed inconvenient becomes alarming. Immediately, realizing what she had done, she searches for him, but this time the search is filled with challenges and pain. The watchmen of the city find her, beat her, and take away her cloak (5:7).
Then the representative “daughters of Jerusalem” ask her, “How is your beloved better than another beloved”? What they want to know is what makes her beloved so special. Her answer tells us exactly how she feels. Instead of focusing on her situation, or her longing due to his absence, or her frustration with what has happened, she begins describing everything she admires about him (5:10-16a). And the ending captures her heart perfectly, when she says, “This is my beloved and this is my friend” (5:16).
That last utterance is especially powerful. The woman’s lover is not only the object of her romantic desire; he is also her friend. It entails the truth about deep love; it includes attraction and desire, but is also accompanied by companionship, admiration, and the joy they bring.
We can draw a spiritual lesson from this about our relationship with God. At times, God calls us to draw near, but life has a way of putting things in our way. We become distracted, tired, complacent, or simply slow to react. When we become aware of how we have been responding, we may realize how deeply we miss the nearness we once enjoyed. Yet rather than remaining stuck in regret, we can do what the woman did when she realized she had not responded the way she should have. She got up and began to seek him. And even if there are challenges, and even if there are pain and sacrifice, we must remember what is beautiful about the God we love and why He is worth pursuing.
So, let’s protect love (especially intimacy) as a sacred blessing that we have been entrusted with by God, guarding it and only giving it to the one who should be invited to enjoy it. And in our relationship with God, let’s not allow spiritual complacency to make us slow to answer His invitation to draw near and enjoy the blessing of His presence in our lives.
Reflection Questions
- How well do you communicate love and admiration with your words? How can you work towards improving in this area?
- How is the world’s view of and guidelines for intimacy different from God’s? What problems are caused by the world’s? How is God’s way best?
- What do you often do with regret in human relationships? Do you try to ignore it, letting it grow, or do you actively seek resolution and restoration? What do you often do with spiritual complacency? Do you try to ignore it, letting it grow, or do you actively seek God and His presence in your life? What does seeking God look like and what are the blessings from it?
Prayer
Dear God – I praise and thank You for being a God of love. Thank you for showing us how to love – in Your word, in Your Son’s example, and in Your own love. Help me to verbalize my love to You and to my spouse and others You have graciously put into my life. Help me to see opportunity to love rather than inconvenience. May I be moved by regret to pursue, resolve and restore. May I grow deeper and deeper in love with You and with my beloved and friend.
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